My first guest is my very own son, who was our family’s pioneer podcaster when he was in college. Donald Caven, who I called "Enzo" in my blog for ADDitude Magazine, brings an interesting perspective to the work of his mother and grandmother. We talk about wine and whining, our house’s No Whining zone, his frustration with passive, manipulative asking, healthy communication cultures, our twisted rules on spanking, and much more. He also fixes Star Wars.
In this chapter:
A clever metaphor from Pat Palmer’s The Mouse, the Monster and Me
Why asking is hard
How to ask without creating drama, residual negativity, or codependent behavior
Teaching kids to ask without whining
Special Needs kids and asking
Saying ‘No' is setting boundaries
Why saying ‘No’ is hard
How to say ‘No' to kids without threatening or scaring them
Saying ‘No' keeps kids safe
Not being able to say ‘No’ is gaslighting
7 great ways to set limits with your kids—and teach them how to say no.
Quotes from The Winning Family
by. Dr. Louise Hart & Kristen Caven
Assertive communication is direct communication.
Asking increases your sense of self.
Good teachers are intuitive but few are mind readers.
“Saying no can be the ultimate self-care.” —Claudia Black
Saying no, like braking on a bicycle, defines our boundaries—how far we will go and how close others can come to us.
You don’t have to be mean to mean business.
Teach your kids that the only thing that means “yes” is the word yes, delivered with enthusiasm.
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